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I am a person who has spent my life not understanding loyalty. I thought I did. I thought I was the most loyal person around. I was loyal to my friends, my family, and anything and anyone I associated with.

I believed loyalty was sticking with someone or something no matter what. For friends, this left space for people whose behaviors others would not put up with. But I would stay. For family, this is even more true. As a child, you are stuck with…